Physical Stuff vs. Emotional Stuff ~ Is there a connection?

The members of NBOC, North Bay Organizers and Coaches, have collectively acquired thousands of accumulated hours organizing our clients’ belongings. We have vast experience supporting and coaching our clients while they surrender their emotional attachments.

While time and money may play a realistic factor, many reasons for not following through are subconscious and unconscious. Someone may think they want to get the work done, but actually there are several reasons in the way as to why they just are not ready to take it on.

Lets explore some of those reasons.
  • Are you one of those people who wants to de-clutter and organize but is hesitant or reluctant to do the work? 
  • Do you find yourself with piles of stuff about the house?
  • Do you frantically run around straightening up before company arrives?
  • Do you feel scattered and have difficulty finding things?
  • Do you simply feel agitated when you walk into a room?

Some people have resigned to the idea that this is the way it is, has always been, so the way it will always be. Others may tell themselves the situation is temporary but are so overwhelmed that nothing shifts.

Ask yourself why this process is difficult for you. What are you not willing to look at or deal with? This is not to judge or make yourself wrong. Be curious. You may not be aware of how much your stuff is bogging you down emotionally.

As organizers, we recognize that there may be a connection between disorganization and unresolved emotions.

Can you relate to any of the examples described below?

I can’t let go of something because I might need it later and I won’t be able to find another one or afford it again. 

I inherited something which is taking up space in my house. No one else in the family wants it and I have been designated the keeper of the family heirlooms. I feel obligated to hold onto it and would feel guilty to let it go. 

I received a gift from a cherished friend or family member. The item serves no purpose nor brings me joy; however, because I am close to that person I am reluctant to let it go.

I am holding on to an item because it reminds me of a wonderful experience or person.  

If he or she would just pick up, I wouldn’t be in this mess. It’s not my problem but boy am I inconvenienced and upset!

I am so overwhelmed I don’t even know where to start.

Each of these examples are true stories from our clients with real emotions of attachment, scarcity, guilt, shame, embarrassment, overwhelm, complacency and avoidance.

If you can identify with any of these examples imagine how much space your stuff is taking up room in your psyche.

Clearing the physical clutter brings these emotions to the surface so they can be released. It can be a scary process but very manageable with the right support. 

It’s OK to ask for help.  It’s Ok that you don’t know how to get started. 

We at NBOC are here to help.

Contact a professional organizer who is trained to address your specific needs because we know that de-cluttering your physical and emotional stuff can be a loving practice and lead you to living your life more fully.

You can find those things you’ve been missing, save time, money and energy. Experience less aggravation and frustration.

You can feel comfortable in your space, hence better emotional health and you will have room for new experiences and relevant things to come in. Your home becomes an invitation for new or improved relationships to enter.

We are coming into a new year, it’s a great time for a fresh start. 

This post was created by the following NBOC members:
Laurie Light of Laurie Light, Professional Organizer
Kari Wishingrad of Organizing By Kari
Kristen Noel of Organically Organized